tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post5199390241434335267..comments2024-03-28T18:12:44.319-04:00Comments on Sparrow Tree Journal: Work stuffJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-63019710701689475912016-12-09T17:31:33.270-05:002016-12-09T17:31:33.270-05:00Jennifer, I will echo others' advice to keep s...Jennifer, I will echo others' advice to keep specific notes documenting these negative situations and occurrences It's essential. Also, sometimes just the process of keeping such a record will help you to have different ways of looking at your workplace. Having worked so many decades in varying environments, I really counted my blessings that most were congenial and projective. Not all, though. xoFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-26218702061028408372016-12-07T12:26:46.472-05:002016-12-07T12:26:46.472-05:00That's good. Sometimes change is a must.That's good. Sometimes change is a must.Janie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-91051317319142251592016-12-07T06:24:25.707-05:002016-12-07T06:24:25.707-05:00It is so important to document these abuses. If th...It is so important to document these abuses. If there comes a time when you do go to HR, it will help you and your co-workers that you took the time to record the events. Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-39369970275070825082016-12-07T04:10:50.225-05:002016-12-07T04:10:50.225-05:00What I always told my children as they entered the...What I always told my children as they entered the workforce is: Make yourself indispensable. They did so. What I did not tell them is personality problems in the ranks is mostly what caused me to go outdoors and be a gardener for 31 years. But they figured it out. Main thing is this: if you really object to something in administration, make a plan for profitable exit --your husband is quite right-- and, if told to do something that goes against your training (they understand "training" as it involves THEIR bosses too) you will get more respect if you say no than yes. It is at this summarily neglected level of daily life that personal freedom and civil rights have the greatest challenges and progress ahead of them. I wish you every success. Be careful. Geo.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16221314320558128986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-48882972424694434532016-12-07T03:31:30.496-05:002016-12-07T03:31:30.496-05:00When I worked at the bank some years ago, there wa...When I worked at the bank some years ago, there was a manager ( female) who " bullied" me. I was very unhappy, but didn't like to say anything in case it got worse. I told a colleague who knew this manager quite well from previous times, and against my wishes, she apparently said something to the horrid one. I didn't know this till much later, but she was much pleasanter to me until the final morning that she was leaving, when she was really nasty to me as I was 3 minutes late! This was actually 8.48 and we didn't start getting paid till 9 !! I hope that you can soon get another job, or the bully leaves soon. Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576715462615744934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-2163699821927132212016-12-07T03:26:39.876-05:002016-12-07T03:26:39.876-05:00Re your above comment to YP. ( It wouldn't let...Re your above comment to YP. ( It wouldn't let me do a " reply" underneath!) The NHS has it's uses, but is very overstretched this last few years. Ambulance drivers have to wait in corridors with their seriously ill emergency patients for hours until they can be seen. Meanwhile, there are no ambulances free to answer calls. That is just one of the many problems. People wait months and months for non emergency operations, often in great pain. I can't get an appointment with my own doctor for several weeks if I have a problem. ..and so it goes on. I am lucky that I can afford private health insurance and I am covered if NHS can't help me within 6 weeks.Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576715462615744934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-55001886329946994852016-12-07T02:45:22.795-05:002016-12-07T02:45:22.795-05:00Isn't it amazing how one single horrible perso...Isn't it amazing how one single horrible person can poison an entire workplace? Going to HR with all your complaints seems like the sensible thing to do. Certainly that person can be dealt with, and if it means he has to go, then so be it.<br />Trouble with such folk is that, even if you had walked out of your job that day, he would not have seen it as HIS fault, but yours.<br />Gregg's advice to not make such a decision while you were so upset was very sound.Librarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704656564078750607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-54410224825659991802016-12-07T02:11:26.555-05:002016-12-07T02:11:26.555-05:00I will keep you in my thoughts and put you on my n...I will keep you in my thoughts and put you on my new year's wish list too - wish Jenny gets the new job she so very much deserves. In the meantime the volunteering job will be a good opportunity for you to enrich your CV and to keep your mind off the negativity. A big hug.<br />Greetings Maria xxMariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01525028325800849416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-75070285277444263282016-12-07T00:29:48.127-05:002016-12-07T00:29:48.127-05:00He's pretty awful. I've never met anyone w...He's pretty awful. I've never met anyone with a bigger ego.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-80265411343745090592016-12-07T00:28:42.899-05:002016-12-07T00:28:42.899-05:00Now there's an idea!!! Ha!Now there's an idea!!! Ha!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-72774352913201581062016-12-07T00:21:45.942-05:002016-12-07T00:21:45.942-05:00My wife once worked for some lawyers who made her ...My wife once worked for some lawyers who made her life very unpleasant. She kept notes of all the nasty little jealous and sexist comments they made, then eventually quit and took them to court. She was awarded a pleasant sum!Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-19929230139490327772016-12-06T20:01:08.255-05:002016-12-06T20:01:08.255-05:00I really hope enough evidence is gathered on the o...I really hope enough evidence is gathered on the obnoxious man. That is plain bullying and should not be tolerated in any workplace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-48806136463799081552016-12-06T18:39:23.505-05:002016-12-06T18:39:23.505-05:00I've scaled back the job search during the hol...I've scaled back the job search during the holidays but plan to start back up as soon as the new year begins. Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-86905518008346725182016-12-06T16:59:10.087-05:002016-12-06T16:59:10.087-05:00Oh, dear. I quit a job once on the spur of the mom...Oh, dear. I quit a job once on the spur of the moment because I was mistreated (as were others). It was very upsetting to simply stop caring, but I absolutely couldn't take it another minute. I was okay because I was on my ex-husband's health insurance and we didn't need the money I earned. Are you actively seeking a different job, or do you have plans to do so? The volunteer work sounds great. <br /><br />Love,<br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-87232655058019489382016-12-06T16:57:07.802-05:002016-12-06T16:57:07.802-05:00I've worked in a bookstore and a plant nursery...I've worked in a bookstore and a plant nursery, and the work itself is great at both jobs....the people, not so much. <br /><br />The person who was gossiping about me quit suddenly last month. No loss there!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-77813046925489800102016-12-06T16:55:26.809-05:002016-12-06T16:55:26.809-05:00It's the health care coverage that keeps me fr...It's the health care coverage that keeps me from walking out. Gregg earns enough money that we could squeak by while I looked, but I carry the insurance. Lucky for you, you live in England and have the NHS and don't have such worries!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-60839822868630959072016-12-06T16:52:26.406-05:002016-12-06T16:52:26.406-05:00Thank you, Mitchell. I don't know of anyone wh...Thank you, Mitchell. I don't know of anyone who hasn't had a dreadful job or two by the time they reach middle age. I figure it's just part of life. I'm glad you got out of your last bad job! Life feels so much easier when your work is pleasant, or at least tolerable!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-74216472771140444402016-12-06T16:48:21.259-05:002016-12-06T16:48:21.259-05:00I'm hoping 2017 will be a good year; I plan to...I'm hoping 2017 will be a good year; I plan to work hard to make it so. Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12512800812290518552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-89877326127031666072016-12-06T14:28:26.859-05:002016-12-06T14:28:26.859-05:00So many mistakes.... brain not working.So many mistakes.... brain not working.angryparsniphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17236094827257446781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-51484568051101269042016-12-06T14:27:14.128-05:002016-12-06T14:27:14.128-05:00I have always told people the job I would love wou...I have always told people the job I would love would be to work in a Bookstore or Plant Nursery.<br />As a commercial artist I have had my share of horrid bosses but not to the degree of your workplace. I used to shop at Borders all the time. The staff was always very eclectic. I am not sure what store you work for but when every I walked into the other bookshop it seemed very uptight and snooty. Many that is just corporate ? One way or the other this store vibe, needs to change.<br />A bully is a bully.<br />I am glad you didn't walk out and so happy you are recording this manager's action. This should be the first of your "legal" way to fight back.<br />Happy to hear you have health, my daughter work so many jobs without that.<br />I this the person gossip who was talking behind your back ?<br /><br />I know you are a strong person, tired but strong just wait till you all can kick him out.<br />cheers, parsnipangryparsniphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17236094827257446781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-86596492082390751452016-12-06T14:00:12.644-05:002016-12-06T14:00:12.644-05:00Work traps so many people. We have bills to pay. Y...Work traps so many people. We have bills to pay. Yet the idea of flight can be very tempting indeed. Many's the time I wanted to walk out on it all but I had a mortgage, a wife and two growing kids. I simply had to steel myself and carry on - like the poster says "Keep Calm and Carry On".Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-37414856972216927082016-12-06T13:16:28.517-05:002016-12-06T13:16:28.517-05:00So sorry for what you're experiencing, but I&#...So sorry for what you're experiencing, but I'm glad your husband talked you down. It feels great to walk out in righteous indignation, but you end up being the one who gets screwed. I admire you for talking to the store manager. I know that feeling of dread. For a year and half I was sole breadwinner in our house. I worked for an abusive company under hideous circumstances. The job market was dead (2008) and I stayed in that position for another year and half dreaded every single day. My heart is with you on this. I hope things settle down for a while and I look forward to the day you settle into a great situation and give that asst. manager the bird!Moving with Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12954028272162285597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3830720322970025712.post-87038053031891193602016-12-06T12:49:02.804-05:002016-12-06T12:49:02.804-05:00What a nasty boss. Sometimes thinking about work I...What a nasty boss. Sometimes thinking about work I would tell myself "boss is a four letter word", ha! Good for your hubby for talking you down; when you leave it will be great to tell them about your great new job.Terra https://www.blogger.com/profile/04396481049075747940noreply@blogger.com