You are invited to a party to celebrate the life of Edythe Smith Yates
at 4:00 pm on Saturday, January 27, 2018 at my house , (street address)
Raleigh, NC 27609. Edythe requested a family only memorial party rather
than the usual memorial church service.
I am trying to invite all family members who knew Edythe, including
aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins, children of cousins, our children and
grandchildren. Spouses or special friends are also invited. This email
will go to those in my address book. Others will be contacted by phone.
I hope you will be inspired to share your stories and good feelings
about Edythe. (Consider this an opportunity not a requirement.) I will
try to get participation started by asking for your earliest memories of
Edythe. I hope that Gailya (Edythe's sister) will tell about Edythe's early school years
and that Harold (Edythe's brother) will tell about her horsewomanship (or was it
Casual dress will be appropriate. A finger food, paper plate on the
knees dinner will be provided.
Please reply with a yes, no, or maybe and how many by Saturday, January
20 if possible so that I will order enough food.
Phone or email if you have questions or suggestions.
Looking forward to seeing you all.
When plans for the party were being discussed Lou suggested we drive up the day before to go through some of Edythe's things that we might want to keep. He's been sending out detailed lists of furniture, jewelry, keepsakes, etc to us and to my brother and sister in law. Gregg can't bear to even discuss going through her things. His sister (who lives in Raleigh) has been helping to sort through the stuff, including family pictures, so I plan to suggest that she puts aside anything she thinks we might want and we'll trust her judgement. Aside from a few small things and pictures, there's nothing in particular we feel very strongly about, certainly not strongly enough about to squabble over with the rest of the family. The very idea is distasteful to us both.
Edythe did give me a lovely keepsake and family heirloom several years ago when Gregg had just finished chemotherapy--the wedding ring his father had given her when they married. (Gregg's dad passed away years and years ago). She said she wanted me to have it after I took such good care of her son while he was sick. She also gave me some tiny rubies that had come from a pin his dad got as a retirement gift from the company he worked for (rubies were his birthstone) and a couple of small diamonds from jewelry he had given her. Gregg has suggested we take it all to a jeweler next summer and have something made for me with it all for our next wedding anniversary. I think that's such a sweet idea! I'm glad Edythe gave me those things long before she died. I wouldn't feel comfortable asking for them now, and honestly, it wouldn't even occur to me to ask. I loved her very much, we were great friends, but I would never presume to demand any special family heirlooms. She was wise to give us the things she particularly wanted us to have before she died.
So we won't be going up to Raleigh the night before the party to go through her things. Instead, we're going up a couple of hours before and taking whatever things Gregg's sister has put aside for us. Then after the party, we'll either drive straight home or get a hotel room for night. We would be welcome to spend the night at Lou's house, and there's plenty of room, but now that Edythe is gone being there feels weird and sad. We'll probably just come on home.